Great blog post on Joyful Pathways about how to talk to children about their writing and ways to show them how they've grown. Check it out here. Plus remember my favorite line when they come to show you their picture - "Tell me about your picture!" It goes over way better than, "What is that?!?"
Finding the Right Preschool
I've been delving into the subject of preschool lately to help parents of young children navigate the definitely overwhelming and sometimes anxiety-producing preschool decision. I am a huge proponent of preschool and play. If you'd like to read more about the importance of play, you can check out my post on play here. With the way kindergartens are being turned into the new academic first grade, preschool is truly the last chance for kids to just enjoy themselves and play. A ton of learning takes place during that enjoyment and play, too!!
I will also tell you without any hesitation that if you are a stay-at-home mom, there is no shame in wanting a few hours off!! If you don't think you need a few hours off, then you are probably in the most dire need of time away from your children. The first year I sent my son to preschool I knew he would've been more than fine at home with me, but I knew we BOTH would benefit from him going to a quality preschool. He would benefit from exploring things that I didn't have at home, learning social skills, and focusing on subjects that are not necessarily my favorites (science and math, anyone?). I would benefit from having a little breathing room to be still and be at home by myself. That alone time definitely saved my sanity and I didn't even have to feel guilty because I knew he was having a great time learning while he was away.
I have found some great resources on the web that I'd love to share with you. If you have any others I should know about, please comment!
The blog Teach Preschool is an excellent resource for all kinds of things during your preschool search. I love this post she did about how to select a preschool: Choosing the right preschool for your child.
I've actually been surprised by the lack of books out there, but this one seems to be the most popular and thorough on the subject...
I just found out about an ebook and some other posts over at Teach Mama. She has written a book called The Preschool Journey Ebook that sounds wonderful. My Thoughts on Preschool is a good place to start on her site.
Learning about your child's needs:
A big "ah-ha" moment that I had during my search for my son's preschool was that I needed to look for the best school for HIM instead of what I would've loved as a child. The first preschool I toured appealed to me so much because it was sweet and little and quiet. All of the things I was as a child, but not necessarily what my very active young boy would benefit from. To help you with this task, I found some interesting notes on determining your child's personality. Not that you'll know right away or have to pick one, but it's better to go into the preschool search knowing your child as well as possible.
Learning about the different kinds of preschools:
Of course, you are going to have your own opinions about religious schools and proximity to your home or work. Beyond that, Babble has a great Preschool Guide that not only helps you learn the difference between Montessori, Waldorf, child-centered, and teacher-centered among others, but it has quotes from real parents about each kind. Love it! There's also a great post on co-op preschools called The ABCs of Cooperative Preschools. SavvySource.com and Naeyc.org are good sources for finding preschools in your area.
Learning about your homeschooling options:
If you've been considering homeschooling for preschool, there has never been a better time to do it. There is such a huge wealth of resources available through teacher, parent, and homeschooling blogs. Two favorites I would send you to immediately would be The Measured Mom and This Reading Mama, but there are just tons out there if you start searching. Here are some great posts to get you started:
10 Books to Start Homeschooling Your Preschooler
Why You Should Attend a Homeschooling Convention if You Have a Preschooler
Why You Should Attend a Homeschooling Convention if You Have a Preschooler
Learning what to look for in a quality program:
I would not recommend bringing all of these checklists with a clipboard on your tour. Perhaps just one will speak to you and help you look at what you need. My tip is always to look at the art you see on the walls. Does it all look exactly the same? Ideally you want child-created art where they can pretty much do whatever they want. I loved that my son's school had an art area in their big play yard so kids could do art on their own at any time.
Advice from those who have gone before you:
The Things My Friends Didn't Tell Me About PreschoolGetting ready for the big day:
Preschool Prep: How to Prepare Your Toddler for Preschool
Expert Advice for Preparing Your Child for Preschool
This list from a Montessori school is perhaps a little "ideal" and high reaching in it's hopes - I think some of the things they say your child should have to be ready for preschooler are actually things they need to continue working on in preschool. Preschool and Kindergarten Readiness Checklist.
I know it's such a stressful process because you want to make the perfect choice for your child. The good news is that the reseach shows that prepared children will do well in preschool no matter what kind of preschool you choose. Hopefully that will help you relax a little bit. Good luck and good wishes!!
Reading Buddies Are The Best!
Please hop on over to another of my favorite blogs, Growing Book By Book, to read excellent ideas for helping kids practice reading with a buddy. As you know, practicing reading over and over again with your child can get monotonous or turn into a struggle. Finding a buddy to read to provides them with a fun and real way to share their new ability to read. I personally love having beginning readers read to babies because they can read the simpler board books without feeling like the book is lame or too easy for them. Enjoy!
Great Alphabet Resources!
You just can't miss some of the great resources from one of my favorite sites, The Measured Mom. This is your go-to source for anything you need letter by letter.
The Case for Play
As a mother of a former preschooler, I have great compassion for those of you going through the process of selecting a preschool. Hopefully I can provide some helpful resources for you. The first thing I'd like to share is a compilation of writing about the importance of play, especially in preschool situations.
The Case for Play and Problem Solving
in Early Childhood Classrooms – Some snippets from the web
“On the other hand, a child is more likely to have better mental
health, stronger relationships, and more success in school and work if he has many chances to strengthen his social
competence by playing, talking, working out disagreements, and collaborating
with peers and adults.
Much research suggests that pretend play can contribute to young
children’s social and intellectual development. When children pretend to be
someone or something else, they practice taking points of view other than their
own. When they pretend together, children often take turns and make “deals” and
decisions cooperatively. Such findings suggest that children in early childhood
programs ought to have regular opportunities for social play and pretend play.
Teachers can observe and monitor the children’s interactions.”
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“One of the risk factors for not having a successful transition
to kindergarten is the characteristics of
kindergarten and first grade classes (e.g., large class sizes, fewer
parent-teacher meetings can make the transition more difficult). Emotional and
social competency can be defined and measured. For example, a description of a
socially and emotionally healthy child, ready
for kindergarten, could be a child who is confident, friendly,
has good peer relationships, tackles and
persists at challenging tasks, has good language development, can communicate
well, listens to instructions, and is attentive.”
“It turns out that all that time spent playing make-believe
actually helped children develop a critical cognitive skill called executive function. Executive function
has a number of different elements, but a central one is the ability to
self-regulate. Kids with good self-regulation are able to control their
emotions and behavior, resist impulses, and exert self-control and discipline.
Poor executive function is associated with high dropout rates,
drug use and crime. In fact, good executive
function is a better predictor of success in school than a child's IQ. Children who are able to manage their
feelings and pay attention are better able to learn. As executive function
researcher Laura Berk explains, "Self-regulation predicts effective
development in virtually every domain."
According to Berk,
one reason make-believe is such a powerful tool for building self-discipline is
because during make-believe, children engage in what's called private speech:
They talk to themselves about what they are going to do and how they are going
to do it.
"In fact, if
we compare preschoolers' activities and the amount of private speech that
occurs across them, we find that this self-regulating language is highest
during make-believe play," Berk says. "And this type of self-regulating
language... has been shown in many studies to be predictive of executive
functions."
And it's not just
children who use private speech to control themselves. If we look at adult use
of private speech, Berk says, "we're often using it to surmount obstacles,
to master cognitive and social skills, and to manage our emotions."
Unfortunately, the more structured the play, the more
children's private speech declines. Essentially, because children's play is
so focused on lessons and leagues, and because kids' toys increasingly inhibit
imaginative play, kids aren't getting a chance to practice policing themselves.
When they have that opportunity, says Berk, the results are clear:
Self-regulation improves.
"One index
that researchers, including myself, have used... is the extent to which a
child, for example, cleans up independently after a free-choice period in
preschool," Berk says. "We find that children who are most effective
at complex make-believe play take on that responsibility with... greater
willingness, and even will assist others in doing so without teacher
prompting."
Despite the
evidence of the benefits of imaginative play, however, even in the context of
preschool young children's play is in decline. According to Yale psychological
researcher Dorothy Singer, teachers and school administrators just don't see
the value.
"Because of
the testing, and the emphasis now that you have to really pass these tests,
teachers are starting earlier and earlier to drill the kids in their basic
fundamentals. Play is viewed as unnecessary, a waste of time," Singer
says. "I have so many articles that
have documented the shortening of free play for children, where the teachers in
these schools are using the time for cognitive skills."
It seems that in
the rush to give children every advantage — to protect them, to stimulate them,
to enrich them — our culture has unwittingly compromised one of the activities
that helped children most. All that wasted time was not such a waste after all.
THE BENEFITS OF
PLAY
Play allows
children to use their creativity while developing their imagination, dexterity,
and physical, cognitive, and emotional strength. Play is important to healthy
brain development.
It is through play
that children at a very early age engage and interact in the world around them.
Play allows children to create and explore a world they can master, conquering
their fears while practicing adult roles, sometimes in conjunction with other
children or adult caregivers.
As they master
their world, play helps children develop new competencies that lead to enhanced
confidence and the resiliency they will need to face future challenges.
Undirected play
allows children to learn how to work in groups, to share, to negotiate, to
resolve conflicts, and to learn self-advocacy skills.
When play is
allowed to be child driven, children practice decision-making skills, move at
their own pace, discover their own areas of interest, and ultimately engage
fully in the passions they wish to pursue.
Ideally, much of
play involves adults, but when play is controlled by adults, children acquiesce
to adult rules and concerns and lose some of the benefits play offers them,
particularly in developing creativity, leadership, and group skills.
In contrast to passive
entertainment, play builds active, healthy bodies. In fact, it has been
suggested that encouraging unstructured play may be an exceptional way to
increase physical activity levels in children, which is one important strategy
in the resolution of the obesity epidemic.
Perhaps above all,
play is a simple joy that is a cherished part of childhood.
Children’s
developmental trajectory is critically mediated by appropriate, affective
relationships with loving and consistent caregivers as they relate to children through
play. When parents observe their children in play or join with them in
child-driven play, they are given a unique opportunity to see the world from
their child’s vantage point as the child navigates a world perfectly created
just to fit his or her needs. (The word “parent” is used in this report to
represent the wide range of adult caregivers who raise children.) The
interactions that occur through play tell children that parents are fully
paying attention to them and help to build enduring relationships.
Parents who have
the opportunity to glimpse into their children’s world learn to communicate
more effectively with their children and are given another setting to offer
gentle, nurturing guidance. Less verbal children may be able to express their views,
experiences, and even frustrations through play, allowing their parents an
opportunity to gain a fuller understanding of their perspective. Quite simply,
play offers parents a wonderful opportunity to engage fully with their
children.
Play is integral to
the academic environment. It ensures that the school setting attends to the
social and emotional development of children as well as their cognitive
development. It has been shown to help children adjust to the school setting
and even to enhance children’s learning readiness, learning behaviors, and problem-solving skills.
Social-emotional
learning is best integrated with academic learning; it is concerning if some of the forces that enhance children’s ability
to learn are elevated at the expense of others. Play and unscheduled time
that allow for peer interactions are important components of social-emotional
learning.
The Importance of Preschool
The above picture is of my son and his friends running around on their very first day of preschool ever. As I'm sure many of you know, preschool is such an important time in a young child's life. It is also a very perplexing time for a parent because you have to decide when to put your child into preschool, how many hours to leave them there, then find a good preschool that you like, and then try like mad to get your child in if it's a popular program. For some parents, you also have to struggle with the decision of whether to send them to an outside preschool or do a preschool curriculum at home with yourself as the teacher. I can so appreciate and relate to all of those concerns from when I had to do my preschool search for my son. I have lots and lots to share with you on this subject and hope to comprise a blog post soon. In the meantime, if you're at the time of life when you're feeling the preschool pressure, please sign up for my talk at the Kidspace Museum in Pasadena this coming Tuesday, February 11th from 6-8pm. We'll cover all of the above topics plus more, I'm sure! Sometimes it's just nice to get to talk out your anxieties and concerns. Click here to register or find out more information. Hope to see you there!
Give Book Bucks for Valentine's Day!
Hello dear readers! Thanks so much for stopping by! It's been a slow start to 2014 blogging for me, but I'm hoping to pick things up soon. In the meantime, Melissa Taylor over at the amazing blog Imagination Soup has created an excellent idea for a Valentine's Day present! Printable "book bucks!" Just hop on over to her blog by clicking the picture above to save and print out your very own. Then you have an excuse to go to the book store with your child and let them pick their own book. As educational psychology and our own parenting instincts tell us, when kids have a choice they have more investment and excitement in their books. I also recommend cruising book stores after the holiday because they frequently mark holiday titles at 50% off. Then you can add to your collection of Valentine's books that you pull out every February like me! I know it came from my days as a teacher, but having a different tub of thematic books for each month/holiday/season keeps things exciting and alive for my son and myself! Happy reading!
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